Sex Celebs 19
LESS OPPRESSION, MORE ORGASMS
We live in an oppression based culture that promotes capitalism, racism, sexism, heterosexism, ableism, and many other “-isms”. We’ve received sexist messages that women are supposed to deny their sexual desires. These messages, though enforced externally are often internalized and leave us feeling as though we are unlovable, unworthy, and devalued. These along with many other oppressive beliefs and systems work to minimize our political, social, economic, and personal agency. We believe that we can continue to resist and reclaim our agency by rebuilding our relationship with our bodies. Experiencing pleasure and orgasms, whether that looks like dancing to our favorite songs, reading poetry, masturbating, writing affirmations, or having kinky sex affirms that we deserve to live healthy, pleasurable, autonomous lives. Lives in which we are connected with our bodies, empowered to ask for what we want, and refuse to settle for unpleasurable experiences from our lover or oppressive culture.
SMART BDSM: BEST KINK ADVICE NOBODY TOLD YOU
Let’s get smarter about how we express our desires around kink! Let’s refrain kinky desires and gain practical ways to effectively convey our pleasures. While BDSM and kink is gaining in popular awareness, the language used to communicate our desires fail to provide a realistic vocabulary for discussing the nuances of desire, free of judgment, stigma and decoupled from cultural bias. Midori has travelled the world teaching, how to understand, communicate, explore and express our desire for power exchange and play. This presentation was received with great acclaim at the 2018 Annual Conference for the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Now you will be able to use these practical communication skills.
FEAR & FLUID(ITY)
Fluid and fluidity is scary. If I'm not in a neat gender box, if my mannerisms are 'too gay' in some settings, or I let my own fluid flow with non-barrier sex, it seems the world will turn on its head. Television taught me that men can express feminine gender characteristics but only mockingly. Being around straight men taught me to monitor and adjust my own behaviour if I want to be accepted. And the shame accrued over time as a racialized gay man taught me to feel guilt and disgust with my own bodily fluids. Why is fluid and fluidity so scary to us? This talk will draw on anecdotes societal rigidity and lost opportunity in the realms of gender expression and sexual experience; we'll also imagine a future trajectory of fluidity and possibilities.
RADICAL TWERK: RECLAIMING YOUR BLACK BODY
This workshop explores a new perspective on twerk, one that places this dance in its historical and global context and as one strategy to liberating and reclaiming our Black bodies and sexuality. Together we will:
- Learn about women centered cultural dances from around the globe
- Openly discuss current and personal connections to twerking
- Develop your own radical twerk practice
**This is for people of color only**
ROPE BONDAGE: CONTROL AND CONTROL MOVES
Learn effective rope moves to enhance control. Whatever style of bondage or rope play you enjoy, these skills will boost the emotional and psychological intensity of your scenes.
In this hands-on class, you’ll practice safe moves that are body-smart for the top side and bottom sides. Whether you enjoy Kinbaku, Shibari, Westen, Predicament, Damsel in Distress, Take-downs or Confrontational play, these techniques will integrate well into your fun! No experience necessary. Pair attendance is encouraged, but solos are welcome as well. If you come solo, you’ll be paired with other solos for practice. Throughout the class, Midori will help attendees with skill growth. Each exercise has purpose and philosophy behind it to deepen your play, whether you cast or receive rope, or enjoy all sides of the rope in your private play. Everyone is expected to do all the exercises. This will enhance your personal play!
Comfortable clothing. Shoes with good floor grip or good yoga socks.
One or two lengths of rope that you usually play with. If you’re not sure, bring one or two lengths of 20 to 30 feet of ropes. If you don't have rope, there will be some available to borrow.
HOW TO CREATE AMAZING SCENES
Learn the subtle but powerful art to creating mind-blowing scenes… the sort of experience that leave you and your partner in a state of bliss and pleasure. So much of being confident in play and sex has to do with how we set up the experience, understand what you and your partner really want, and becoming fully present.
Have you felt like you might be missing the mark on full satisfaction with your play? Do you feel like you’re often hesitating or doubtful during play? Have you felt misunderstood or that you mis understood them?
Midori shares with you her revolutionary, compassionate, hot, humanistic and naturally flowing method for setting up your next amazing scene!
Come to this class to find out what's between the lines and under the skin. There's so much more to amazing scenes than just knowing how to use the tools. Whether you are a seasoned top, experienced bottom, novice to topping or new to bottoming, this class will share with you what you can do before the scene to maximize scene success and increase confidence.
Learn about the essential questions the person topping should ask. Find out the questions the person bottoming should ask to prepare for a great scene. Bring note-taking material and your questions! For all levels of experience. All sexes, genders, ethnicities, sexual orientations, relationship orientations welcome and celebrated.
SHAME & SEXUALITY
As talking about mental health becomes more normalized, people are increasingly talking about depression and anxiety. But what about the more nuanced experiences such as envy, disgust, and shame? This workshop will delve into the concept of shame in particular and its many dimensions. We'll explore where our shame originates, the internalized messages we carry with us, and we'll consider how shame permeates our execution of desire and motivation for partner-seeking.